I don't know how others feel, but nice is not enough.
Until one can say the words, "God loves gay kids", it's not enough. Nor are universal substitutes, like, "we are all children of God", which fails to be sufficiently context sensitive.
Gays are not 'benign criminals' to be treated kindly, with just certain limited rights to be defended, in some type of weirded-up social justice system.
They ought to be full and integrated members of society.