Sadly, Megan buys the whole permavictim-of-the-courts posture, that has finally death gripped the GOP in many people's estimation, but not without dealing a nasty blow to gay Americans. It's sad and ugly, the ongoing assault on the courts. They may not always get it right (Bowers v. Hardwick), but they are better - far better, than the alternatives.
Transformative politics seeks to exit the permavictim-of-the-courts posture, to a new, broader recognition. It doesn't try to side-step around that posture, to triangulate. It tries to change the posture itself.
Yes, we can. We can have both a world in which the 'sanctity of marriage' is affirmed and gays get married (and raise children). We can also do it, in part, by re-affirming respect for the courts and rejecting the assault on them from the American Mullahcracy.